How Being in Tune with Myself Changed My Life
Connecting with yourself is such a beautiful thing. When you’re in tune with yourself and your emotions, nothing else can stand in your way, and honestly, nothing else really matters. Society, negative people, toxic family members and friends, a toxic work environment; none of it matters. Listen to yourself and you’ll know what to do next. It’s you against the world. Nothing else.
I want to stress that we’re all on a journey. We’re all on a different journey too and no two journeys are the same. Take a minute to truly realize what this means. Society has these preconceived notions about how we’re supposed to be and act, but we fail to realize that there isn’t a way to be. I strongly believe that society is built in such a way to make us all insecure. Why do I think this? Because of these existing preconceived notions that I believe are all bullshit. However, when you’re in tune and happy with yourself, these notions are meaningless. Getting in touch with your soul is something so powerful and if you’re not there yet, don’t worry, you will be.
As we all do, I recently experienced a couple of life-changing events that altered my life for the better. This involved making difficult decisions that I knew would lead to a better quality of life. Saying goodbye to old habits and toxic relationships was the foundation of it. I focused on transforming myself for the better. That’s why we were put here in the first place. To live, to learn, and to grow. Progress in life is all about reinvention so it’s totally okay to go through these so-called “phases.” And I must argue that we’re not necessarily going through phases; we’re just living and experiencing life, which is wonderful.
As you know, I’m always in my head and usually find myself in what my friends would say an “existential crisis,” which I feel is a common feeling amongst most human beings. You’re not alone dude. We all feel this way. If you find yourself experiencing anxious episodes, I recommend taking time to focus on yourself and placing significant value on your mental and emotional experience. Connect with yourself in such a way and truly take some time to get to know yourself. Listen to your deeper self, which is always at rest. Here are a few things you can start doing to connect with yourself at a deeper level:
Practice meditation: There’s no science behind this. Start by sitting down in a quiet place with no distractions. Relax, close your eyes and feel your feelings. Turn the lights off. Maybe turn on a candle. Put on your favorite tunes.
Positive Thinking: The law of attraction is so powerful. Start by bringing positive thoughts into your life instead of negative ones. Tell yourself how amazing you are. Think about what you want to bring into your life.
Nature: I’ve personally found that taking the time to go outside helps a lot. Soak up the sun. Sit next to a tree.
Workout: I’m a huge yogi and will always advocate this. Working out is a great way to focus on yourself. Yoga is great for your body but also for your overall mental health. Different types of workouts are too. Find what works best for you.
Be Selective: Be careful with what type of energy you’re allowing into your life. I can’t stress this enough. Say goodbye to friends who put you down and don’t believe in you. Only allow positive energy into your space so truly pay attention to your social group.
Minimalism: Ha this is a good one. I had my “phase” here in New York where I was hanging out with people who only cared about money. I found myself slowly sinking into this hole until I realized that this wasn’t me. Materialism has a direct link to low self-esteem; minimalism and simple living are associated with increased mental and physical well-being. Money is a wonderful thing but if that’s all you care about, that’s a problem. Spiritual practice rejects materialism in favor of something more real. It’s all about balance.
Let Go & Free Yourself: Learn to forgive all those who hurt you and move on. Leave it in the past. Holding on to pain doesn’t help. Don’t apologize for calling people out and moving on. You don’t need negativity in your life but it’s important to let go.
For the rest of this year, and honestly, forever, I encourage you to truly value your spiritual practice. I’m excited for you, friends.
